Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.
—Proverbs 15:22 NIV
Who are you accountable to? We have this crazy idea that when we turn 18 or 21, all of a sudden we don't need anyone else. Our parents have been stupid since we were 14 or 15 anyway. And our high school teachers just didn't get it. No one has any wisdom, any experience, anything they can help us with. So we wander around blindly, stumbling over ourselves, sticking both feet in our mouths on a daily basis, compounding mistakes on top of mistakes.
I hope I didn't just describe your marriage. Why do we leave so many impoortant things in our life to chance? That's exactly what you're doing if you're working it all out on your own, building a marriage through trial and error. You need someone in your life that you trust. Someone that has been married longer than you. Someone who has made a lot of the mistakes you want to do without.
And your wife needs you to have such a mentor. She needs you to have someone in your life that you feel close enough to that you will let them be brutally honest. So the next time you don't realize you hurt her feelings, or you tell an embarrassing story about her, or talk down to her, or treat her in any way other than the way you're supposed to treat her - like Jesus treated His church - he can tactfully tell you.
TODAY’S DARE
Find a marriage mentor—someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. But you have to make sure he feels an open door with you. During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.
If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment.
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