Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
—Ephesians 4:2 NIV
The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. The Love Dare book, on page 2, tells us that "Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human." There are a lot of reasons that we are impatient. But maybe the best reason to be patient is because nobody is perfect. And guys, that includes us.
When I consider all the mistakes I have made in my marriage...
And when I remember all those times that I KNOW Dava held her tongue to keep peace...
...it's time for more patience in my relationship. I wonder how often Dava has stressed over having to tell me about a little problem or mistake because she worried I would respond with a lecture? An impatient person is one of the most impossible people to live with.
TODAY’S DARE
For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret.
(Guys, please comment below because we need to hear from each other. It can be something funny, serious or heartfelt. But whichever it is, please comment often!)
My mornings are the most hectic time of day.I have to get up, get Connie up and help her to the restroom and get her moving then back to recliner due to her pain, I am pushing Morgan to get ready, fixing breakfast, her Coffee (which I don't drink), my self ready, usually running late so when she ask me to do a little something as get a napkin or etc..I usually huff and puff and fuss cause I am already late. So this Morning I didn't say a word, just did what she asked and then sprinted out the door...it was tough cause you know I am a meanie....
ReplyDeleteThank goodness the flowers i sent her arrived today, or i would have been a dead duck...lol. OK don't let me the only one talking here....
ReplyDeleteNo negative today. Which is hard for me. I tend to look on the "glass half empty side" too much. But I got a wonderful email from my wife stating she wanted to take me out this weekend. Don't know why that excited me so much. I guess its nice to be pursued. Good day of love even though we really didn't anything other than a bad trip to Ming's. Ok Allan your not the only one now.
ReplyDeleteIf I had written this comment this afternoon I would have said how easy it is to just keep your mouth shut when you think about saying something negative. Then I had two "opportunities" later today. Not as easy as we think, huh? It was tough for a few moments but an hour later when the irritation was gone, it felt so good to know I didn't act impatiently. I have a good mentor in this - I just need to watch her better.
ReplyDeleteI am a pretty patient person unless it is goin somewhere else other than home to watch Alabama football and when i get impatient i usually get a little on edge and easy to smart off or say something just to hurry whoever im waiting on to get ready. I agree with Rick it is better to hold my tongue. My wife has been so patient with me and all the practical jokes i play on her so i need to give some patience back,
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