He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him. —Proverbs 27:14
OK, let me warn you. You need to go ahead and put your big boy pants on today. This is the toughest one yet for most of us.
Communication. Whatever your definition of that word, it has to include the fundamental aspect of being two way. Now, face it guys, we're good at the output part. But listening... hearing... understanding... and reacting appropriately is something we need to work on.
So today is not about you. As a matter-of-fact none of these 40 days are. They are about you being a better husband, a better man. And the challenge today is to not speak your mind but listen to hers.
TODAY’S DARE
Ask your wife to tell you three things that cause her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. For this to work you must do so without attacking her or justifying your behavior. This has to be from her perspective only. So ask, listen and don't reply. Be a man. And thank her and give her a hug.
How tough was today for you? The toughest for me was anticipation. Going in knowing I couldn't defend myself by giving my reasons. I didn't even know what I would need to defend. Maybe even some things I wasn't even aware of doing. I normally think I'm a pretty good husband. But when I had to let my guard down and invite her to take her best shot, my mind came up with a lot of possibilities. This was eye-opening even before she answered.
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