—1 Peter 3:7
An understanding way. Live with your wife in an understanding way. That's a lot of what needs to change in our relationships. Just simply deal with your wife on a level of being understanding. And show her honor.
Try to understand what she is thinking when she does something the "wrong" way. Perhaps it really isn't wrong but just not the way you'd do it. And too often we feel the need to "coach" our wives, help them see our way is really the best way. That kind of talking down to her or even worse, lecturing her, is not showing her honor as a fellow heir, or in other words, not respecting her as an equal in the eyes of God.
Peyton Manning, Michael Vick, Ben Roethlisberger - different styles of quarterback. Which is the wrong style? Trick question. They all have a great style and ability to win games. Any head coach who tried to change their style would be considered crazy. And they wouldn't be appreciated by the player they were trying to "help" either. It would be dishonoring to their gifts, their abilities.
It's kind of the same thing with our wives. You like to clean the kitchen as you go, she likes to just get dinner prepared and worry with the dishes all at once. You like to put the kids' socks on before their pants, but she thinks pants first is best. And even one of my pet peeves, whether the toilet paper should roll off the top or underneath the roll (is there any question?)
Who's wrong? No one. When you get that, really get that, your wife will begin to see you as a much more understanding husband.
TODAY’S DARE
Choose a way to show honor and respect to your wife today that is above your normal routine. It may be holding the door for her. It might be reversing the roles by putting her clothes away, or something else she normally does for you. It may be doing something "her way" just to show her you respect her ideas about things. It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication. Show her that she is highly esteemed in your eyes.
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