[Love] believes all things, hopes all things.
—1 Corinthians 13:7
Love believes the best. Think about that. The last couple days have been an exercise in seeing things from your wife's perspective and doing something about it. If you and your wife saw everything exactly the same then you and she might act exactly the same.
For example, wives are usually more concerned about security while husbands are more concerned about taking care of their family in a grand way. Sometimes that is reversed. But both are admirable traits - unless either is taken to the extreme, or when you lose the battle to do it your way!
Let's put a little more flesh on the example: The two of you manage to save an extra $500. As you are heading out the door to withdraw it from savings to make a downpayment on a surprise vacation, you're the one that is surprised. She joyfully announces that she withdrew it yesterday and socked it away in a 12-month CD because she got such an excellent rate. There was no right or wrong here. Both of you were going to do the same thing: surprise each other with the very best use of the money you could imagine. And down the road, hopefully, both of you will enjoy the fruit of either action.
So today's focus is to understand AND appreciate some of the positive and negative things you see in your wife. Remember, a lot of those "negatives" were traits you absolutely loved about her when you were dating!
TODAY’S DARE
For today’s dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. You'll need one of them tomorrow. At some point during the remainder of today, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.
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