—Mark 3:25
Do you fight fair? The best way to know isn't by checking the rules of the Geneva Convention. You don't need to call your uncle the lawyer or your granddad the retired police chief. Or your mom, either. Please don't ask her.
How you feel after a "fight" with your spouse, especially when you win, is a good indicator. You know, when you win but feel bad afterward? Something wasn't quite right, was it?
How your wife feels after the same fight is an ever better indicator. You can win the battle and still lose the war because you destroyed your best friend!
But the best indicator is how you feel about each other. Have you ever had a disagreement and felt closer to your wife afterwards? Now that's a marriage that is "fighting" fair! That's what you need to be working toward.
TODAY’S DARE
Talk with your wife about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If she is not ready for this, then do it for yourself, on your own. Write out your personal rules to abide by when the two of you argue. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs. If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.
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